My core

What is your core?

What are the most important things in your life right now?

Do you allow your core to direct and empower your daily decisions and actions?

Overnight, with a couple of bottles of San.Miguel light I was contemplating about those three questions Bo is asking me to answer. He said it would help me simplify my life and live a Good Life. I don't even know if there is such a thing as an even more simple life than what I have right now with my husband because as far as I'm concerned we are already living a simple life. But anyway, as I was reading the first question over again I went to my desk and checked the dictionary to find the meaning of the word "core" (it might just help).

Main Entry:
core
Part of Speech:noun

Definition:the central, innermost, or most essential part of anything.
Synonyms:
base, center, cob, essence, focus, gist, guts, heart, hub, kernel, meat, middle, nodule, nub, nucleus, pith, root, staple, substance.

So in other words if I were to rephrase Bo's question it would be like this:

"What is the central, innermost, or most essential part of yourself"?

Well, now I can better understand the question and my answer to this would have to be my HEART.

My heart dictates my mind most of the time when it should actually be the other way around. No wonder I've been in trouble several times all because I have a big heart. But it also paved the way for me to make some of the best decisions in my life without regrets.

My heart has gone through a lot and sometimes I feel like it has become rigid over the years but still it remains compassionate, loving,caring and forgiving despite the pain.

I hope Bo is satisfied with my answer to his first question which brings us to the second one:

What are the most important things in your life right now?

It would have to be my FAMILY , my JOB ,GOD,FRIENDS,and my HOME.

I am existing for my family. Without them I am nothing. I am working hard for them and together I want to live a good life with them. I am driven by my ambitions and dreams in life because of Ye, Ysa and Miguel. And I cannot imagine my life without them anymore.

My job is also very important to me because I get to pay the bills, buy food, milk, diapers, medicine, provide clothing and shelter for my family because of my job. Even if it's not enough, still it can get us by.

God gives me strength. HE alone provides me the way on how to solve each and every obstacle that comes my way. He is my light, my hope, the answer to my every prayer.

Friends come and go but luckily I have a few who's always been by my side even if they are a million miles away. I miss my friends Judytte, Dicy, Susan, Juvy, Gerladine and Dinah.I hope we'll see each other again soon.

I must say I am very thankful to my in laws they allowed us to stay in one of their houses in QC. Without their help we would probably be still renting an apartment somewhere. And because they opened their doors to us, we take care of our new home like it was truly ours although I hope in God's time we will have our own.

Bo, are you happy with my answers so far? Because honestly as I was writing my thoughts I realized that I actually have a very simple life. All the while I thought that I have such a very complicated life with all the problems and people I encounter everyday. I feel like I am at peace and it feels great.

We are now down to the last and final question.

Do you allow your core to direct and empower your daily decisions and actions?

I often times allow my heart to direct and empower my decisions and actions. I do so thinking that I'm doing them in good faith but like what I've said it also failed me a couple of time because we shouldn't let our emotions empower us most of the time. We also need to use our mind and be stiff because we need to, and that is for our own good.Right Bo?

Im just on page 17 and I have several more chapters to read before I can finish this book.

And as I flip through the pages, I hope that I am able to Simplify and live a Good life.

Live from the core of your being..,says Bo Sanchez

It is not enough if you are busy.The question is, What are you busy about?

-Henry David Thoreau

The great BO Sanchez wrote this article in one of his books entitled Simplify and Live the Good Life. I would like to share my thoughts on some of the meaningful excerpts he wrote and I hope that you can relate to this as well.

“Happiness is not found outside of you. It doesn’t come from cars, clothes, cash, or Caribbean cruises. Happiness is found within.

When I came across this passage on page 17, I sort of imagined that Bo (my favorite author) was in front of me and was personally telling me this. At the same time I can see myself frowning back at him and rebutting the idea saying, “Are you kidding me Bo!”

But I gave the guy a break and continued reading and rebutting each and every word he wrote. Surprisingly at the end of the article he included an activity. It was an action plan designed to test the truthfulness of his theory. Hmmmmmm!?…might as well try it. I will not lose anything anyway and who knows I might just agree with him after going through this action plan.

Instructions: Begin a journal for his book “Simplify and Live the Good Life”. Write down discoveries, insights, reflections, and here we go ‘action plan’ for each chapter.

What is your core?
What are the most important things in your life right now?
Do you allow your core to direct and empower your daily decisions and actions?

Ok Bo, I’ll give it a try and I’ll share my journal to whoever cares to open my blog and hopefully after reading your book you can help me Simplify and Live the Good Life.

My thoughts over the weekend.

I've been married for about 3 years and 3 months and since the time I tied the knot it is only recently that I am beginning to enjoy my married life. Ironic but even I am surprised and I was dwelling over this thought the whole weekend.

Is it a good thing or bad thing?

Why just now?

But thank God it happened.

I must say that ours' was never a planned marriage at all. We were just friends at that time, we did not even have a commitment and oooppss! We were on our way to parenthood. But I have no regerets because my men is the best that I have met so far, but of course there could have been better options..(hehehe) kidding aside, he's I guess everything that I wanted my partner to be, a complete opposite of MWUAH. But since we did not really have a relationship when we started our family, we were like hitting birds with one stone. Getting to know each other more and at the same time being husband and wife. It was very difficult, especially that his family was completely against our decision (gosh I can just imagine) not that we were hard headed but we just completely arrived to a realization that of all the relationships we had in the past, our friendship was one of a kind. We had that gutt feeling that we will have each other for the rest of our lives. And so we did.

It was like a Romeo and Juliet affair the most depressing point of my life aside from my mother's death. They completely pierced my heart it hurt. They judge me like there was no good in me at all. I lost friends and family because of what they did and I am greatfull that despite going through this painfull moment of my life, my men stood by my side even if sometimes I can feel his knees tremble.

Then came our first born, Ysabel. She sealed our family togther and became a bridge towards rekindling the once lost friendship with our family. It wasn't easy going back to that place . All I had was a bad memory of that paradise but for my daughter we had to go back there. And now we've made that place our home and somehow going back helped me heal my heart.

At this point, I must say that I am happy. Although trials still do come our way but unlike before my husband and I are more of partners now than we were before. We've become drinking buddies, bestfriends, teammates and it feels good that somehow weve learned to let go of the past and all the heartaches and just enjoy whatever we have at the moment, especially now that we have Miguel.

I hope that as we grow older we are still together, holding each others hand through thick and thin and Im sure no problem is too huge for as long as we stand by each other.